If you find yourself constantly in the situation of claiming that your single status is due to the lack of good men, it’s time to reassess why that might be. Of course, it’s easier to blame the opposite sex for their inability to commit themselves, but it’s often your own behavior that results in you dating one bad boy after another.
We may not be able to change our environment and the idiots that surround us. However, we have the ability to change our behavior, our choices, and the way we respond. Open a new chapter and open your heart to finally bring the love you have been waiting for into your life. Here are ways to attract and retain a good guy:
Do not play games
You act as if you are not interested in him, but then you get angry when he does not call. Men are not mind readers. If you want a good guy to stay around, you have to tell him that.
Do not run after it and feel desperate, but play confidently and with open cards!
If you do not respect yourself, how should the guy respect you? Anyone worth dating will appreciate a girl who knows her own value and does not settle for anything other than the amazing.
If you try to find a good guy by getting drunk every night and dancing with your skirt over your head, chances are good that only idiots will knock on your door.
Tell him about your feelings
“I do not want a relationship” is what you tell him. “I wonder how long it will take to make it official.” Is what you actually think. If you tell a man that you do not want anything serious, he’ll take it at face value. That does not mean that you should start talking about your dream wedding on the first date and how cute your children will be.
It does mean, however, that you should see how things naturally evolve before deciding where to go. The only way a healthy relationship can work is when you are both on the same wavelength.
It’s okay to admit to a guy that you have been hurt in the past and are not looking for a casual connection. If that scares off a guy, then he was not the right person for you at all. A good guy will appreciate your feelings and it will only bring you closer together.
Do not compete with him
If he goes out, do you have to do it? If he did not send you a message all night, would you wait even longer to retaliate? A relationship will never work out smoothly if you play the dating game like a self-powered chess game.
If you really want to be in a meaningful relationship, then it is important to be open and honest without competing with your husband.
Respect him and his time
Make no plans with him and say at the last minute. He took the trouble to ask you for a date, so pull it off too. Unless there is a real emergency, you should always strive for the guy who cares about you. These are the ones you want to go out with, not those who let you crawl for their time and attention.
Do not punish him
Most people have been injured in the past, but wearing this baggage in your new relationship can sabotage them. For example, if your ex cheated on you and you start projecting your confidence issues into your new husband, you will drive him away.
Checking his cell phone, if he does not look angry, if he does not call back immediately, or assuming he is going out to eat with a girl, if he says he is going out with a friend, is a way to change the relationship for that Failure to condemn.
Take on your individuality instead of changing yourself to meet the expectations of a man you’ve just met. A good guy will love the person you really are, not the carefully constructed version of yourself that you have represented to him. If you lie about yourself to appear more desirable, remember that the truth always has a way to come to light.
Give him good feeling
When going to an event and inviting the guy as your companion, make sure you make him feel like you want him there. No doubt, he’s a big kid and will manage to split you up to chat with friends and acquaintances for a while, but it’s important that your date feels welcome. Leaving a guy at a party you’ve invited him into is a quick way to lose a good guy.
Being nice can do a lot. If your new friend had a hard day, show your support instead of acting disinterestedly. Too often we are busy looking cool, and we forget the little things of being there for someone to listen to and what can make the biggest difference.
Create new memories
We all have ex-boyfriends who meant a lot to us, but keeping them up all the time will make the new guy in your life feel uncomfortable. If you always talk about your ex-boyfriends, it will look like you can’t make room for the good guy in your life, so it’s likely he will not stay very long.
Have your own life
Having your own life is an incredibly attractive quality that will bring the good guys to you. Only an insecure man will want a woman who does not do her own thing to become dependent on him. But the good man loves the woman who is fine on her own and is happy with her life, whether she is single or in a relationship.
If you’re a self-confident woman, no guy will be able to treat you badly because you would never let it happen. Any bad guy you meet will most likely be afraid of your self-confidence, while a good guy will attract and admire you.