As a young kid, the reasons for breaking up were so blissfully easy. She didn’t say hi at lunchtime. You need more time to focus on football stickers. Or, quite simply, it’s summer break. Growing a bit older, and things like cheating partners or going away for college become a grim reality, but, again, decision-making remains somewhat straightforward. She kissed your best friend: you dump her.
Despite all the promises that come with adulthood, it’s actually the limbo that exists in grown-up relationships that is often so maddeningly confusing. So neither of you will ever cheat on the other, but is the absence of an obvious reason to split up a valid enough one to stay together? Being alone can be legitimately rubbish, but being stuck with someone you think might not be the one could well be worse.
The question remains: is your relationship worth fighting for or has it run its course?
There is nothing more fulfilling than finding someone you can love, grow close with, and stay with forever. In the beginning of the relationship it may seem like you’ve found your soul mate, but it may begin to feel like things are fizzling out. You probably want to stay with someone you’ve committed to, but all long-term relationships do not last forever. If you’ve seen any of the following signs in your relationship, it may be an indication that it’s appropriate time to walk away as your long relationship is ending.
You may be finding that you have nothing to talk about anymore, and you no longer share the same interests. This is a sign that the two of you are growing apart.
A major sign that a relationship is on its last leg is if one party cheats and is unfaithful. This means either there is a trust issue, or one of you no longer feels fulfilled by the relationship.
If they love you felt for this person has succumbed to stress, anxiety and disagreements, you may have lost the ability to experience joy through your interaction with your partner. This is never good in a relationship.
You are the worst
Your partner should be a source of inspiration and motivation to be your best self. But if your relationship is ending, you may find that they only seem to bring out your negative qualities now.
If you really love someone, you feel the desire to support their dreams and hobbies, no matter how strange or obscure they may be. If not are not their biggest cheerleader and vice versa, you may have come to a place where you just don’t care for each other as much as you used to.
If you’ve become really uninterested in each other, you are likely never spending time together anymore. It just show an emotional disconnects and distance manifesting in your physical interactions.
Most people in long-term relationships end up being best friends. But with all the aforementioned problems, you may realize that the relationship is friendlier than love. This indicates a major change in your feelings for them, and means you are better off just ending the relationship and being friends, if possible.
Everything has failed
You may have already noticed that things feel off. Because you love this person, you’ve tried to save the relationship because you really love them. But none of your efforts have been successful. No amount of date nights, couples therapy or attempts at intimacy is making headway. This is a sure-fire sign that sadly your relationship is ending.