“We fear our enemy but the bigger and real fear is that of a fake friend who is sweetest to your face and most vile behind your back”.
True friendship is rare. One of the things which make true friendship so valuable is its uniqueness and rarity. In this day and age, there are so many people who will smile in your face and pretend to be your friend, whilst secretly (or not so secretly) envying you or harboring other negative feelings.
If you’re receptive and observant enough to energy, you can often pick up on this; it can be a gut feeling, but there are so many people who miss signs that a friendship isn’t all that it may appear to be on the surface.
“I used to think enemies were the worst people in the world, but that was until I met fake friends and realized that they’re a lot worse”.
True friend will never envy you
A person who is jealous of you is not your friend…point blank period. There may be some folks, who disagree with me on this, but it’s actually quite simple and I’m going to explain.
When someone is truly your friend and really cares about you, they’re not going to be envious of you if you’re doing well and succeeding in your endeavors. A true friend would be happy for you and maybe even inspired if they’re not quite where you are or where they’d like to be.
Envy is a negative emotion which is rooted in feelings of self-inadequacy, inferiority, etc; inspiration, on the other hand, is a positive emotion which is tied to the desire to improve and better oneself without harboring resentment towards someone who is more talented, more accomplished or otherwise further along in life.
A jealous person is not your friend and if someone is flat out telling you, “I’m so jealous of you,” etc, then you need to watch your back because a real friend would be happy for you instead of envious. A jealous person may want to be like you; you may have certain abilities or qualities which they admire, but that person isn’t really your friend. Always remember that not everyone who smiles in your face is your friend.
“Fake friends are like shadows: always near you at your brightest moments, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour True friends are like stars, you don’t always see them but they are always there”.
They gossip with you and without you
If you want to gauge whether or not someone is a real or fake friend, listen to how they talk about their other friends. If someone is constantly badmouthing other people who they call friends, how do you think they’re talking about you when you’re not around? When someone is jealous of you and talks about their other “friends” behind their backs, then you definitely need to watch out.
A person who truly considers someone to be a friend is not going to gossip about them behind their back. This isn’t to say that friends never have disagreements or rough patches. However, there’s a difference between going through a tough time with a friend versus badmouthing them behind their back when they’re not around, yet acting friendly to their face.
If you really don’t like someone or have all these issues with them, that’s fine. Just keep the same energy when you’re in their presence and don’t pretend to be their buddy. Anyone who is willing to negatively talk about other people when they’re not around will turn around and do the same thing to you the moment you’re out of earshot.
“It is hard to deal with someone who smiles and pretends to like you to your face and sticks that eight inch blade in your back when you turn around”.
Always trust your instincts
Sometimes you get a gut feeling about a person, but you can’t explain it. You may feel as though they’re not as nice as they pretend to be or that there’s something which is simply off about them.
Trust those feelings. These are your instincts warning you; it’s also very likely that your subconscious has picked up on things which your conscious mind missed.
When someone is truly your friend, I believe they give off a certain energy which allows you to know that this is a person who truly cares about you and is happy to see you do well. When a person isn’t really your friend, this also gives off a certain energy which may cause you not to fully trust them. Always trust the energy that you get from people because it’s present for a reason.
We live in a crazy world. For every real friend in life who truly wants to see you succeed and do well, there are several other people who will pretend to be your friends, whilst envying you (sometimes secretly, if not flat out telling you they’re jealous of you) and/or badmouthing you behind your back. If you’re able to find real, genuine friends in life, then you’re unique and very lucky.
“An honest enemy is better than a false friend. When in doubt, pay more attention to what people do and less to what they say. Actions not only speak louder than words, they are more difficult to fake”.