You’ll often find that the most toxic people in your life started out as the nicest, but they weren’t nice rather than they were fake.
We need friends in our lives as they help us to keep things balanced when we can’t do it ourselves. Friendships are one of the most important relationships in our lives. But sometimes, telling the difference between the real ones and the fake ones can be tricky especially when you want to believe in the best in people.
Here are helpful tips to show you how to spot the really nice folks from the fake ones.
They Support Your Choices
As long as they are genuinely good for you, an authentic friend will support your choices, goals, and dreams, whatever they might be.
They Love The “Weirdness”
All of us have traits or quirks that are considered slightly odd. A real friend will love you from the core of his heart.
We all make mistakes. Real friends will accept your mistakes and forgive you when you mess up after all you’re only human.
Stay in Touch
Your real friends will stay in touch with you, even if there is distance between you both. They make an effort to talk with you, even when it doesn’t serve them. You’ll find that fake people only talk to you when they want something.
They Make Sure You Are A Part Of Their Lives
Real friends make time for you. It could be something as simple as coffee together on a Sunday morning, or even a short call after work. They let you know that they want to spend time with you.
As important as it is to be able to decipher the traits of real friends, it’s also imperative to recognize traits of fake friends.
Below are a few signs that someone is a fake friend.
Passive Aggressive Behaviour
Before you even know what’s happening, a fake friend will use passive-aggressive behaviour to get their way. It usually comes off in the form of an insult, wrapped in the guise of a compliment.
Constantly Let You Down
Fake friends will make plans, or promises, and repeatedly let you down. Their words mean nothing, and if you mention the constant let downs, they will come back with verbal attacks. They usually won’t feel guilty about it either.
Must be the Center of Your World
They expect you to always put them first, even though they would never do the same for you.
Gossip, Gossip and Gossip all the times
One of the biggest red flags is gossiping. If your friend talks about other people behind their backs, what do you think they say about you?
They Make Themselves more Important
Everything is a competition with a fake friend. Instead of supporting you, they want to be better than you. Whether it is a promotion, how much something cost, who got the higher score, or any other number of petty things, they have to be the best and have the best.